“I’m not a saint”: Lady leaves marriage after 4 years, shares painful experience

  • A young lady announced that she had left her abusive marriage, as she shared her sad experience
  • She narrated what she faced at the hands of her husband and how she planned to finalise the separation process
  • Many who came across the woman’s post sympathised with her after reading her story and encouraged her

CHECK OUT: Education is Your Right! Don’t Let Social Norms Hold You Back. Learn Online with LEGIT. Enroll Now!

A Nigerian woman, Quenny Ogechukwu, shared her sad experience after leaving her abusive marriage of four years.

She narrated how her husband had maltreated her even during their courtship, but she decided to marry him because she was scared of being mocked.

Lady who left abusive marriage shares her experience and why she had married her husbandYoung lady leaves marriage of 4 years after going through painful experience. Photo: Quenny OgechukwuSource: Facebook

On her Facebook page, she shared what she went through at the hands of her husband during the marriage.

She said:

“Yesterday, 4th April, 2025. I mustered the courage to leave an abusive marriage, again. I’m broke, scared and uncertain about what the future holds for me moving forward but for now I don’t think there’s anything more scary than living with a man who thinks it’s ok to pour hot tea on my face because he’s angry, a man who thinks it’s ok to put his hands tightly on my throat and choke me so much that his fingers dig into my skin and make a mark; just because I’m “rebellious” (according to him), a man who threatened to kïll me and go to jail but “he will make sure that I’m not alive to see him going to jail”, a man who slaps me and throws weapons at me just because he’s angry or there’s a disagreement.

“A man who locks me out at any slightest provocation and a man who beats me in public even when I’m carrying a sick baby.”

Lady recounts how husband abused her during courtship

The lady described her marriage as “four years of emotional abuse and physical assault, four years of fear, suffering, tears and embarrassment.”

She added:

“I’m not a saint but if I have so much bad character that you can’t tolerate or manage me is it not best to let me go… I may not have loved myself enough to marry this man because he was as$alting me during relationship but I still went ahead with the marriage because I was so scared of what people will say.”

See her full Facebook post here.

Lady who left abusive marriage shares her experience and why she had married her husbandYoung lady leaves marriage of 4 years after going through painful experience. Photo: Quenny OgechukwuSource: Facebook

Reactions as woman leaves marriage of four years

Ugochi Ajaraonye said:

“Congratulations on your survival. Please don’t go back again. Trust me, your life will be much better without an abusive marriage.”

Ifu Nanya said:

“Chai. This life is indeed mysterious. Never judge a book by it’s cover. Looking at how agile and strong you are, no one would believe you are going through all of these in an early marriage.”

Nnamdi Bernard Nwabueze said:

“Very sorry for the pain, but it’s not everything you will take to social media rather you settle it amicably with your families.”

In related stories, a man divorced his wife over his son’s medical bills, while a lawyer shared why he handled divorce cases despite being a pastor.

Divorced lady’s comment on abusive marriages trends

Meanwhile, TheTalk.NG previously reported that a young lady who got divorced said she would not advise other women to leave their abusive marriages.

She shared her experience when she decided to leave her husband and why her advice was hers alone.

Those who came across the post had mixed reactions and shared their thoughts on the lady’s remarks.

Source: TheTalk.NG


Lady empties bank account to buy Infinix phone for husband on birthday, shares h…
A Nigerian lady emptied her bank account to surprise her husband with a new phone on his birthday She shared how she planned the surprise with her younger sister and showed her husband’s reaction after getting the phone Many who came across the clip shared their thoughts on her kind gestures as she shared how ... Read more Continue reading here ▶


Landlord reportedly gives quit notice to tenant who bought 3rd car, shares why h…
A landlord reportedly asked his tenant to leave his compound after the latter bought a third car in the compound The landlord gave a reason for his decision, as the exact location and state of the incident were unveiled Many who came across the post shared their thoughts on the landlord’s decision, sparking mixed reactions ... Read more Continue reading here ▶


Nigerian man finally completes building project, shows off transformation of hou…
A hardworking Nigerian man has shared his excitement on social media after completing his first building project In a video, he proudly congratulated himself for the impressive achievement and still gave gratitude to God Social media users who came across the video on the TikTok app stormed the comments section to applaud his good work ... Read more Continue reading here ▶


Lady who visited Rwanda discovers that their currency is stronger than naira
A Nigerian lady has shared the things she noticed in Rwanda after she took a tour of the country recently The lady said the first thing she learned was that Rwandan Franc is strong than the Nigerian Naira in the exchange rate She also said she noticed that Rwanda is a very clean country and ... Read more Continue reading here ▶


"Odogwu pararan": Lady gushes as Uzor Arukwe calls her 'achalugo' at airport, vi…
A Nigerian lady could not hide her excitement after meeting popular Nigerian actor, Uzor Arukwe, at the airport In the video, she posed with the talented actor who jokingly promised to buy her the airport and called her achalugo Social media users who came across the heartwarming video on TikTok stormed the comments section to ... Read more Continue reading here ▶


Leave a Comment